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SFO International Council - Weekly edition

Volume: 2 - N. 48 - 1996 - November - V

From: Letter to the Assistants, 1996, N. 4


Children (II)
The Law
The Promise
The Good Deed
Our Motto
Poverty
Exercise of responsibility
Relations with others

CHILDREN (II)

MEANS OF FORMATION

The Law

The Law of the "Child" is:

1. I love God my Father.
2. I love all the children of God my Father.

The child needs a norm that dominates everything and everyone and that is at the same time "his", covering his group, his activities, his games, his relations with others. He needs it to be also a simple norm, but not banal; "his", that is, perceived as a fact that it belongs to him from the moment that he has chosen to be part of the group which observes it, but not his alone. The proposed Law aims to satisfy these needs.
One must appeal to this continually, because the entire group depends on it and is guided by it. Its text will have a place of honour. Whoever asks to become a Franciscan Child and to make the Promise must be questioned on his understanding and observance of this Law, naturally in a way proportionate to his capacities. Here the sensitivity and balance of the Animator are called upon.
The Animator will have to show that he or she lives the Law at his level, and so with a much stronger consistency.

The Promise

The Promise is the act with which the "Children" commit themselves to observe the Law. So, with this they enter the group as members. [The group of the "Children" may have a special name. The candidate makes the Promise after a suitable time of preparation, during which, through playing, praying and taking part in all the activities of the group, he will show that he has understood, at his level naturally, what is being asked of him. The preparation for the Promise should not be longer than three months, but it should not be shorter than the time necessary to participate in at least five or six meetings.
The contents of the Promise, which can be formulated by each group, thus making the Law concrete, should contain the following elements of commitment: following Jesus with Francis; friendship with everyone; the daily Good Deed.
It should be personalized, with regard to the preparation, which must take account of the capacity and effective preparation of each person, and therefore also with regard to the date. The "Child" must feel that the Promise is his personal commitment to live with the help of the group, a tiny cell of the Church.

The Good Deed

The love that Christ gave witness to and to which we want to initiate the "Children" has as its essential component the spirit of service. A service that can be carried out also with great acts but which above all is made of daily acts and so of small attentions, acts of sensitivity, occasional helps, etc. Through these small things, they can be habituated to an attitude of availability to their brothers. We cannot ask more of a child than this start. However, it will contribute to creating a new mentality, that of Christ. This gesture is called [in Italian "Pace e Bene", because it is a gesture of peace and a gift of good, and because in this way the Franciscan greeting and best wishes takes on substance.
The "Children" must be continually stimulated along these lines, with imagination and creativity. They will respond very well because they are still "limpid"!

Our Motto

The "Children" also have a motto of their own: a word that sums up their commitment and becomes part of their jargon, which they need psychologically. They can use this motto in a thousand ways: as a shout to begin their games, as a motto to display on their notebooks and drawing pads, as a word of recognition among themselves, etc. It is simply,Always better! . It indicates a commitment not to grow tired of improving and growing. It is along the lines of the reference that Luke's gospel makes to Jesus, who "increased in wisdom, in stature, and in favour with God and men" (Lk 2,52).

Poverty

Franciscan poverty is not flight but a loving choice: Christ chose it to be near us and Francis made it also his choice out of love for him. Through gospel poverty everything is evaluated in relation to God, the only Lord of all. So, through evangelical poverty we understand better the value of well-being itself and of wealth because we understand that we are stewards of things and not owners of what belongs to God, which God provides for everyone.
If the heart is not stripped of power and possession, it does not know how to love. If it loves to possess, it is not free from material conditioning, from consumerism, from conformism (the alibi of calling necessary what everyone runs after even without needing it).
We seek to help the "Children" to appreciate and actuate the essential (a significant aspect of poverty) in what is needed, and in the use and choice of things.
Also, knowing how to provide for oneself so as not to be a burden to others, but rather to have an extra opportunity to serve others, is an expression of poverty that should enter into our educational concerns.
The acquisition of a certain manual ability also enters into the same picture. It also favours creativity and is a means of approaching material things correctly.

Exercise of responsibility

Duties towards God, one's neighbour and creation call for responsible participation, which is conscious, motivated, constructive and competent.
The initiation into responsibility is brought about through the exercise of simple functions, proportional to the capacity of children. Simple, but not fictitious, but rather real and accepting all the consequences.
The tasks can be formative such as those of: messenger (to spread news); caretaker of some or all of the gear for the activities; to check whether the youngest ones (or one in particular) have what is needed for an outing, activity, etc.
It will be formative also not to remedy too much, with last-minute rescues, the unfulfilment of responsibility. Each one should develop the habit of considering the discomforts to others that he inflicts through his negligence.

Relations with others

The relations with others - with individual persons but especially with other groups and institutions - should be considered from the formative point of view as important moments. So they must be prepared in good time, either specifically, one at a time, or in general, so that they may be occasions for checking and for dialogue.